Dating App Observations

A purely scientific review

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No one could have foretold that the saying, “Give me your tired, your poor, your huddled masses,” would one day apply to dating apps. In fact, this is their target audience. Sure, there are plenty of fish in the sea, but that sea is actually a cesspool.

Case in point:

— Why you frowning at me like that? Your profile photo looks like a prison mugshot.
 —  Why are you taking selfies while driving? Don’t you have anyone at all who cares about you enough to take a decent photo for your profile?
 —  Why are these photos so grainy? Even the most basic smart phone takes clear photos!
 — Who is that woman next to you? Sure, her face is scribbled out, but I want to know who is she to you?
 —  You claim that after work you can be found at the gym. Not in a relationship with me, you won’t. You’re gonna prioritize time with me. You can work out while I’m sleeping.
 — You claim to be 45, but you look 55. Why the gray hair and battered face? Is it all those jars you had to open?

Things I don’t want to see:

— Your shirtless workout at the gym. (whutevs)
— The fish you caught. (you’re cool!)
 —  You smoking a cigar. (so cool!)
 — You pointing at your bros. (probably the coolest!)
 — You making out with your dog. (and you plan to kiss me with that mouth??)
 — You holding a huge hunk of meat, Fred Flintstone-style (blech!)
 — You holding a gun (WTF?)
 —  You lying in bed shirtless looking at the camera with bedroom eyes. (cool your jets — we haven’t even met yet!)

If I had a dollar for every profile photo I’ve seen with some variation of these components, I’d be a millionaire and could buy myself a quality mate instead of wasting time on these dreadful dating apps.

Things I don’t want to hear:

— “Hi, pretty lady.” (catfishing) 
— “God gave you a perfect face. Is it ok if I like your eyes?” (serial killer)
— “Let’s get kinky!” (nah)
 —  “I’m ethically non-monogamous!” (slut)

Once you weed out all the fake profiles and every guy with missing teeth, a snaggle tooth, over-eager chest hair, man boobs, beer belly, face tattoo, gold medallion, pinkie ring, or who is roided out, it leaves one man. And he lives 3,000 miles away.

Crushing 2023

Prepare to be inspired AF

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In the game of Life, you are the protagonist. The plot: move amongst several billion non-playable characters. The goal: to reach your death with a modicum of integrity and dignity left. The final stage boss is God, of course, who will tally the points you accrued over your lifetime. But let’s not get that far ahead yet.

I’m not saying that you should only look out for #1. You should show compassion to those NPCs you encounter along your journey. What I will say is that an NPC’s role is to supply you with some bit of information (which you need to analyze for usefulness because it’s just as likely to be a ball of belly button lint as it is a nugget of gold).

NPCs are also incredibly disappointing. Even if they’ve given you a major piece of the puzzle you were missing.

Can we all just agree on this? People are disappointing. Parents, siblings, lovers, friends. Everyone is placed in your path to provide some sort of adversity. These are the mini-bosses. If you’re lucky their influence will help you build character rather than mislead or harm you.

What I woke up this morning feeling grateful for is solitude. I recently blew up my life and rebuilt it to suit my needs. Now I get to spend half the week alone without distractions. I get to do my midnight snacking with all the lights on, making as much noise as I like. I get to sleep in each morning. I put my focus on self-care routines (like Pilates and listening to the Black Keys discography on repeat) and on creative pursuits.

My commitment to myself this year is to leave behind all that doesn’t serve me. That includes grief, grudges, and candy bars. I open my palms to the universe to receive all the energy and gifts it wishes to impart. I wish to expand with the universe. (It’s definitely expanding, not contracting, by the way.) I will search the darkness for hidden bounty.

I am going off-script. I will be the creator of my own destiny.

How about you?